‘The problem is not the kids, it’s the dysfunctional and/or aggressive parents……parents who won’t accept that their kids can do any wrong, or parents who have particular personal or political agenda…’ so wrote school principal, Mr Kevin Farrell, from Beelbangera, in a letter to The Sydney Morning Herald last month.
Someone willing to tell it as it is.
And, may I add: Parents who don’t ‘give a stuff’ what their kids are doing - and when and where and with whom?
Then in last Saturday’s paper, child & adolescent psychologist Dr Michael Carr-Gregg, stated, ‘Taking the path of least resistance seems to be the parenting strategy that way too many parents are taking now’.
It’s well past time that the responsibility for inappropriate & disruptive behaviour in classrooms - and subsequent stress on schoolteachers and schools - was sheeted home to parents.
When did parents cease being responsible for their own offspring?
When did they stop encouraging their kids to love school?
When did they start to rely on organisations to worry about what their kids were up to?
When did they stop actually ‘looking after’ their children?
And, when did parents decide that teachers were fair game for gross criticism?
Decades ago, teachers were respected members of the community; schools were looked on as privileged places of learning. Teachers were appreciated – esteemed even – by parents of school age children and highly regarded by children of all ages.
More recently schools are being considered (predominantly for younger kids, at least) as somewhere for them to be minded while mum & dad go to work or are involved in other (child-free) activities - and the place where all dilemmas and disputes concerning kids and society are to be dealt with.
Schools are also often looked upon as a facility to enable children to be treated exactly as each parent wishes; the continuation of the ‘me, me’ entitlement epidemic. (Groan!)
Meanwhile, well behaved students with a wish to learn suffer, owing to the huge amount of time that teachers and administrators must devote to maintaining a suitable learning environment as they cope with behaviours previously unseen in schools.
Also - it seems that, almost weekly, another issue is put upon schools, for schools (no, not the parents) to deliver appropriate ‘lessons’. Leaving aside the actual imparting of educational skills and knowledge that is the main reason for schools to exist, more and more social problems are being left to the school to solve.
Where are you?
With many children holding little respect for school (in general) or teaching staff, the resultant effect on the ‘good’ students can only be a negative one.
Not to mention the effect on teachers.
To place blame on to schools for poor student behaviour and resulting poor results (in some cases) and never taking into account the attitude imparted by the home and the parental influence is crazy.
Hooray for the few (very few, I’m afraid) voices bravely suggesting (to put it bluntly) that if it’s your kid, teach him/her how to behave correctly, how to be cooperative and, dare I say, be grateful for the privilege of school - instead of being a badly behaved, demanding and disruptive annoying egotist* – or future jailbird!
* have to admit, I really wanted to write ‘little shit’!