In my search for appropriate words to include in this funeral service, I came across part of a talk given by the minister and author, Norman Vincent Peale, who had conducted a service for a young man who had taken his own life.
The mother and sister of "my" suicide person agreed to include it in the service for their son and brother.
Here it is:
"Our friend died on his own battlefield. He was killed in action fighting a civil war. He fought against adversaries that were as real to him as his casket is real to us. They were powerful adversaries. They took toll of his energies and endurance. They exhausted the last vestiges of his courage and his strength. At last these adversaries overwhelmed him. And it appeared that he lost the war. But did he? I see a host of victories that he has won!
For one thing - he has won our admiration - because even if he lost the war, we give him credit for his bravery on the battlefield. And we give him credit for the courage - and pride - and hope that he used as his weapons as long as he could. We shall remember not his death, but his daily
victories gained through his kindnesses and thoughtfulness, through his love for family and friends, for animals and music, for all things beautiful, lovely and honorable. We shall remember not his last day of defeat, but we shall remember the many days that he was victorious over overwhelming odds. We shall remember not the years we thought he had left, but the intensity with which he lived the years that he had.”
Perhaps this says some true words about depression?